Self Loving

What is self love? Why is it important?  How can it change your life?  Where to start when self loving?  What might stop you from self loving? These a few questions that have been whirling around in my mind for some time now.  I have discovered that self love is treating yourself as a precious energy ball that if treated with the right care will expand beyond your imagination.  However, if you neglect it out of your unawareness or because you don't apply your awareness then it may dwindle and only flicker.  Therefore, self love is treating yourself in specific ways that enhance your wellbeing. 

Self loving is important because how you treat yourself is the way others will treat you.  This sounds kind of magical and at the same time it sounds like an odd thing to say.  However, magical it is because when you take time to spend your energy on yourself you send a message to your subconscious mind that you are important and also to everyone around you.  Whereas, you used to be a yes person people now know you value your time and thus, they know when you give them your time that you are not compromising your own wellbeing and you will put your all into the project or task.

Self loving can change your life by firstly you feeling absolutely attended to and looked after and also it can change how others are enabled to treat you, for example, have you ever heard the saying if you want a job done give it to a busy person.  Why do you think this is? It is because the person who is busy is usually the sort of person who finds it hard to say no and care for their own wellbeing.  Therefore, being self loving is a way to set personal boundaries about what you will accept by how you priortise your time and how you behave. 

The question of where to start with self loving may prompt anxieties within you, however, you can start by doing simple practical things such as spending time on your personal hygiene and saying no when you feel resistant to someone's request.  It really is the little things that make you feel adored.  Using a face cream may help as you say I love you and want to care for you.  You may say to yourself "I know others have not treated you with care and I know I have not up until now, however, this is going to change one step at a time" 

I imagine you are thinking is this person nuts how can I say no to people.  They might reject me, they might think I am selfish, they might never speak to me again or my favourite they might never invite me to their house ever again and then I'll be all alone.  I never said any of this was easy and the ongoing internal chatter scares us so much that how dare we self love and self care or put our own needs first if we want others to remain in our lives.  However, despite this I am learning that taking  deep breaths and to recognising that those who really want to be in my life will be, even if I love myself and say no to them when I am so tired.  I know little by little this will get easier and I will feel better and better!